Start the Day with a Little Relaxation
If you’re getting married in the evening, take some time to read a few chapters of a book, take a long, relaxing bath, or just do your morning rituals. If you’re getting married in the morning, pick people you love to surround you as you get ready (including your partner, if you want).
Put the Screens Away
Phones, tablets, iPods, all of it! You shouldn't be the one taking phone calls on your wedding day. That is the job of your wedding planner! No Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pintrest - NONE! Those will just distract you and take you out of the moment.
Make Sure You Eat
Eat healthy options like nuts, fruit, veggies. Make sure you drink water as well, especially if you are getting married in the summer.
Realize that Stuff Happens
There will be things that you won't be able to control, and that's OK. The weather might not be perfect, someone may step on your dress, the flower girl or ring bearer may be too shy to walk down the isle, the wedding schedule could be delayed by thirty minutes, guests get lost on the way to the ceremony. There are always things that can go wrong. Don't expect that you can control everything.
Put Someone You Trust in Charge
You did hire that wedding planner, didn't you? If not, you don’t have to have a maid of honor or best person, but it’s worth having a wing person who has your back, whether or not he or she is standing at the altar with you. This person is the designated point for phone calls, the person who can make a final décor call, the person who keeps tabs on all the little details of the wedding, the person who makes sure everything is lined up so you can focus on the more meaningful moments that are happening around you. Sounds a lot like a wedding planner, doesn't it?
Wear Something You Can Move in
Restrictive clothing can make you more tense and less able to relax. Choose clothing that you can move around in, allows you to take a deep breath, and can dance the night away in!
Lock Eyes with Those Who Ground You
Make sure to make eye contact with someone who can ground you like no one else. If eye contact isn't your thing, hugs work just as well.
Have a Few Minutes Totally Alone with Your Partner
There is a Jewish tradition known as the “yichud” —after the ceremony, the two of you go off, totally by yourselves (no photographer, no one) just to bask in the fact that you’re married. Professional photographers and videographers will respect that you need some time alone. Have your wedding planner stand guard if needed.
You Can Affect the Moment
It is OK to say “I’m going to hang out with people before the ceremony,” or to insist that your brand-new partner pay attention to you. In other words, don’t let your wedding day happen around you.
Take Care of Your Emotional Well-Being
Sure, you want to say hi to everyone, but you also want to sit down and have a snack, breathe, and just giggle together in a corner. Don’t forget to do that.
Don’t Stop the Feelings
Your wedding day is the day to just feel every single feeling possible. All of those feelings might not be love, bliss, and joy. You may have moments of moments where you fell out of sorts, on top of the world, and totally emotionally raw… sometimes all in the same five minutes. It can be a roller coaster, so ride it.
If You’re Dancing, Go All Out
If dancing is your release, do it. Have that dance party, and love every second of it. Literally dance like nobody is watching (or like everyone is). After all, you hired a great DJ or band, so you might as well enjoy the entertainment!
Assign Emotional Bodyguards
Nobody has problematic family members, right? Assign people to be your emotional bodyguards, or whatever you want to call them. If people come at you with problems, from “The DJ is late” to “Your Aunt appears to have fallen off the wagon,” empower these folks to cut these people off at the pass and give you six hours of peace. (And if you have a particularly difficult person showing up at your wedding, feel free to assign one person to be on “Keep them away from me” duty.) Again, you did hire that wedding planner, right? That's who can do all of this and remain completely neutral.
Just Step Back and Observe
Every hour or so, try to take a minute to stop, look around, and take it all in.
Realize It’s OK if You’re Not in the Moment
You can’t be totally present every single second of every day. That is even more true on a day as momentous as your wedding day. There will be moments when you’re overwhelmed and that's OK.